Aging Gracefully (Maybe Not)

January 17, 2007

At the The Hip show with the woman and the bro, all of us pumped and ready to blow it when the band hits the stage. Opening act has taken their leave (and they were great; maybe not a great match for this crowd though). In the row in front of us a middling woman and her pack of cronies march in each with about seven or eight under their belts. The blonde is some piece of work. I can smell the cigarettes and cheap gin on her breath from here. A bloody hatchet of dye job with trying-to-be-clever glasses, double knit pants and a gold lamme shirt of some kind. Holding a cup of Smirnoff girl juice and swaying to some non-existent beat. She’s mouthing off about the seat arrangement and being a real ignorant cuss about it. My bro and his friend give her a few choice words. She sluffs them off. The lights go down and she gets up, arms in the air, drink sloshing wildly in her hand. The Hip crash into Grace, Too and she’s taken to thrusting a two-fingered peace sign into the air and pumping her hand wildly. Needless to say, she looks like an unhinged drunken mom, the kind that sits on young men’s laps at parties1. Listen woman, maybe back in the 70’s – when you were a cocaine-snorting, Southern-swilling siren – waving a peace sign at a rock show was cool. You know, CSN&Y, The Doobies, and all that shit. Now it’s not. Nobody does it. It’s devil ears or nothing in this decade and in this province. Get it fucking right.

She’s a distraction throughout the show, hanging off of guys half her age and trying to make like the party animal she probably never was. She almost tips over a few times, but manages to hold her shit. About half way through the show, she attempts some kind of jumping maneuver, like she’s trying to jump on the backs of the young men in front of her. She almost makes it. Bang. Flat on her ass to the ground. Everyone clears away, and the security guards finally step in to help. Everyone around bends over and shouts a loud BOOOO, right in her face. Dumb broad deserved it.

For some, getting old is a long exercise in trying to relive a wild past that probably wasn’t that wild to begin with. History puts a saint in every dream2, as a wise poet once said. Aging gracefully seems to be reserved for those who posess the humility to accept nature’s progress, and their own. Staying young and gold is a lovely fantasy, one that we all want to cling to, but it’s best reserved for Hollywood schlock and greeting cards. All of us are twelve inside and it is our struggle to reconcile that internal youth with our old bodies and jaded minds. There is no answer; no right way to be. There are only different versions of the truth. People and bands. Some age well. Some don’t.


1 I must credit my lovely fiance Justine for this observance and phrasing.

2 Tom Waits, Time, from the album Rain Dogs.

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4 reader comments (closed)



Wow, it sounds like the view you had from your seats was far more interesting than the view from mine. Over where I was everybody was well-behaved and singing along.

Jan 17, 2007 • 17:05



...which is why, two summers ago, i was secretly glad when i got separated from my daughter and her boyfriend in the crowd at ozzfest. when black sabbath took the stage, no one nearby knew me, therefore i could make a total fool of myself.

just wait a few years — it happens to the best of us.

Jan 18, 2007 • 06:11



Yes, I’m sure it’s in the mail for me. I’ll be drunk, stumbling, and lighting myself on fire when The Hip go on their 30th anniversary tour. Looking forward to it.

Jan 18, 2007 • 09:23


Nicole Pakan

I think this is something that we should all keep reminding ourselves of as we age: we’re never as cool as we think we are when we’re drinking. We should all strive to retain (or maybe to find) some fragment of accurate self-perception. I never did understand the appeal of getting hammered at concerts…I actually like to remember them. Well I’m happy to hear that you enjoyed yourself in spite of the distractions!

Jan 18, 2007 • 10:51

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